Archive for December, 2012

Tuesday TREAT:

December 18, 2012

Friday’s Spotlight for this past week was Sister Lori Trauntvein… but both of us forgot about it.  So.  Hope you’ll forgive us. (And thanks again Sister Trauntvein!)


Lori Trauntvein


I moved here with my family from Pennsylvania in 2010 because Nate was hired by UNH.  We were so thrilled that his first job out of graduate school would be such a fantastic place for raising a family.  I am the mother of 2 girls, Olivia (6) and Abigail (3).  We live in Durham, and we really like it here.  I work at UNH health services 8-9 months out of the year as a nurse practitioner.  It’s been a hard transition for me to go back to work, but our family is thriving with this new routine.  And I am so looking forward to my next 5 weeks off over the winter break.


I was born in Albuquerque, NM but grew up in Logan, Utah.  I spent my growing up years playing tennis, playing viola in orchestra, and enjoying Hebgen Lake, Montana.  I met Nate at a school dance and we shortly realized he was a friend of my older sister’s.  We dated through high school, and after he got back from his mission we married and immediately moved to Salt Lake City so I could attend nursing school at University of Utah.  We both really love Salt Lake.  But our stay there was short, after I finished school we moved back to Logan for a few years, where I worked as an ER nurse at the hospital, taught at Bridgerland ATC, and eventually went back to school for my master’s degree.  Then we moved to State College, Pennsylvania and were there for 7 years.  Olivia joined our family, and then a few years later, Abby came, too.  I really enjoyed being a stay-at-home mom; however, it seems we were rarely at home, going from the library to play dates and other little kiddie programs.


And that brings us to the present.  Some of the things I enjoy are reading, being outdoors (particularly in the mountains), planting and gardening, cooking, knitting, sewing and snuggling with my kids, and spending some time each summer in Montana.  I hope to get back into playing tennis and cross-country skiing now that my kids are bigger and we live so much closer to mountains.  I am so thankful that we have been blessed thus far to live in such wonderful, safe communities and meet such great people.  I am presently serving in Primary, and look forward to continue to meet more people in the ward.

“Therapist’s advice for parents to talk to kids about Connecticut shooting”

December 15, 2012

A good friend of our family, Erica Laue, discusses how talk about traumatic news with children. An interview from earlier today.

COLORADO SPRINGS, Colo.- A therapist who works with children and adults who’ve been through trauma offered advice on Friday on how to approach the conversation about the tragic shooting at an elementary school in Connecticut.

Erica Laue is the on-site therapist at TESSA’s Safe-house. Children are observant, so she says parents need to talk to their kids about the shooting so they don’t hear it first from a classmate or an adult.

“When you’re talking to a child the first goal is to say, something really scary happened. Someone went into a school and killed a bunch of children and that’s really scary. Let the child react to that, ‘Oh that horrifying’, and let the child own their reaction. ‘You know I can tell this is a really scary news for you but this doesn’t happen all the time. This isn’t a normal thing which is why children are so scared by that, what do you think?’ And let the child start talking,” said Laue.

She said parents have to be careful when their talking to their kids – it’s a balance between explaining what happened and overwhelming them.

“The first [mistake] would be to deny the reality that this is a scary thing and deny that it could happen anywhere. But again, it’s that same balance of saying ‘Oh it could happen at anytime and absolutely terrify your child into thinking at any moment someone is going to run into the classroom door and start doing something absolutely vile,” said Laue.

She recommends waiting until you can sit down with your child on their level to approach the topic. She said parents shouldn’t bring this up in the car and try to keep exposure to the topic at a minimum until you can have a conversation in the right setting.

She also noted children’s exposure to the news coverage of the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting should be minimal.

“They need the information from you they don’t need repeated exposure to traumatic material,” said Laue.

Laue stressed that parents need to emphasize to their children that what their feeling is normal. She said children may have nightmares, feel scared or sad, or start to suspect strangers might be armed.

“When we can say to our kids, it’s okay to be scared; this is a very scary; this is a very scary thing to happen and we can’t predict it. When they hear it’s scary but it’s consoling to know its okay to be scared by that and it allows them to work through it on their own,” said Laue.

John Frizell has a 9-year-old daughter and planned to talk to his daughter after school about the shooting. He said he wasn’t sure how he would approach the topic but it was a learning moment for him as a parent.

Frizell planned to spend the afternoon with his daughter doing something fun. But he said first, he would give her a big hug.

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Wednesday Words: Trials, Optimism

December 12, 2012

posted by Kelsie Belanger

These are bits and pieces from an April, 2000 General Conference talk I came across a few weeks ago. It’s given by Sister Coleen K. Menlove and can be found here.

It contains a message I really needed.

The Savior, Jesus Christ, showed us the way to happiness and told us everything we need to do to be happy. As we study the teachings of the Savior and thereby understand the purpose of our existence, we feel and express our happiness.

Our prophet, President Gordon B. Hinckley, is the very essence of a glad heart. He has written: “I am an optimist! … My plea is that we stop seeking out the storms and enjoy more fully the sunlight. I am suggesting that as we go through life, we ‘accentuate the positive’”

Elder Richard G. Scott said: “Your joy in life depends upon your trust in Heavenly Father and His holy Son, your conviction that their plan of happiness truly can bring you joy” (“Finding Joy in Life,” Ensign, May 1996, 24).

Through the Savior we can find our way back to God. We can find peace and happiness in this life and eternal joy in the world to come. That thought, in and of itself, warms my heart and makes me smile.

As we come to understand the great plan of happiness, we will radiate, for all the world to see, a glad heart and a cheerful countenance. We will show that we know the gospel of Jesus Christ is a simple, ever-present source of true happiness today and ever after in eternity. It is living the gospel of Jesus Christ that is our guarantee of living “happily ever after.” Of this I testify in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

Monday Menus: Lemon, Honey + Thyme

December 10, 2012

posted by Kelsie Belanger

I’m pretty sure I’m not the only person in the world who hates winter.  It’s just that living in New England sort of surrounds one with winter survivalist pride -my kindred spirits are in Florida this time of year.

That being said, I can still eat like it’s June. So here’s a recipe from Australia (where December means something different).



3/4 cup-1 cup (185ml-250ml) honey

1 cup (250ml) cold water

small handful of fresh thyme sprigs

the finely grated zest of 2 lemons

1 1/2 cups (375ml) freshly squeezed lemon juice (from about 4 large lemons)
(For full recipe click here)

Wednesday Words: What Think Ye of Christ?

December 5, 2012

Our lesson on Sunday began with this video, and then the question: What think ye of Christ?



At the beginning of this Christmas season, what think ye of Christ?

Announcements: Week of Dec. 2, 2012

December 3, 2012
* This Thursday, Dec. 6th, we are making the bows for our wreath making activity at 9:30 am in R.S. room. All are invited to help us make them. They are easy to make!
* This Saturday, Dec. 8th, is the Ward Christmas party from 11am to 1pm.  Thank you to those who signed up to bring items. 
* Next Sunday, Dec. 9th, is the Bishop’s Youth Curriculum Fireside from 6 to 7:30pm.  All are invited to attend, not just parents with youth. They will be discussing the changes to the youth program.
* Wednesday, Dec. 12th, is the R.S. mid-week activity, making fresh wreaths from 6:30 to 8pm.  The wreaths cost $3 ($2 if you have your own wire frame). Payment can be made prior to the event to either Sis. Fox or Sis. Johnson. Sign up sheets for wreaths and refreshments are still being passed around.
* Thursday Dec. 27th is Stake Family Temple Day.  11:45 to 12:45 youth Baptisms.  2pm Endowment session
* Sister Cheri Caramagno has made arrangements for the members of our ward to do on-going service at the Kittery Soup Kitchen. Every 7 weeks we go to set up, serve a meal, and clean up afterwards. The training will be Thursday, Dec. 27th between 3:30 and 7pm.  We then have our first full service at the end of January, and every 7 weeks after that. We need a team of 12 members women, men, or youth to help each time. Please contact Cheri if you have any questions and to sign up!  Thank you!
* Sister Sibley has moved from her apartment and is giving away some items.  Contact Molly V. for more information.
* Baby shower for Samantha P. on Wed., Dec. 12 during the day. More information to come.

Monday Menus: Kale Caesar Salad and Cauliflower Mac & Cheese

December 3, 2012

Happy Monday! I’m posting two recipes that I recently saw in a Family Fun magazine. The article was about getting kids to eat and like vegetables. As that is an issue with one of my boys, I decided to try them. We had a 50% success rate, but that’s better than nothing, right?


Notes: This is not real caesar salad. It’s called Dinosaur Slaw in the original recipe, but it is reminiscent of caesar salad with the Parmesan and the garlic. I usually cut the dressing in half, unless I am making a large salad. I also cut the salt down, because the full amount (1 1/2 tsp) seemed too salty for me. This one got the thumbs up. Kale is so good for you, and this recipe is simple enough that I highly recommend it.

6-8 large kale leaves

1/2 c olive oil

2 cloves garlic, minced

4 Tbsp red wine vinegar

Salt to taste (1/2 to 1 1/2 tsp kosher salt)

1 1/3 c freshly grated parmesan

1. Strip off the kale leaves from the stalks (hold it in your hand at the base of the leaf; with one hand pull the stalk. With the other slide the leave off the stalk.). Slice into thin slivers.

2. In a small saucepan, heat the oil over medium heat and saute the garlic, stirring frequently, about 2 minutes. Add salt and vinegar and stir while the vinegar sizzles and becomes fragrant.

3. Pour the dressing over the kale and toss. Stir in the parmesan. Serve immediately.


Notes: This is a super simple recipe and comes together fairly quickly. Plus, it’s another way to squeeze vegetables in! 

2 pieces bread, wheat or white

2 Tbsp butter

1 clove garlic

1 head cauliflower, chopped into very small florets

1 lb macaroni


1 c sour cream

12 oz cheddar, shredded

1. Preheat oven to 375*. Grind bread in food processor into crumbs. Alternately, if you don’t have a food processor, you could probably use purchased bread crumbs, or any other crunchy topping you want. Melt butter in small skillet, add garlic, and saute for about 30 seconds. Add bread crumbs and stir to mix. Set aside.

2. Bring a pot of water to boil. Add 1 Tbsp salt. While the water is coming to a boil, place sour cream and cheese in a heat proof bowl over the water. Stir to melt. When melted, carefully remove the bowl and set aside. When the water is boiling, add cauliflower and pasta. Cook for 8 minutes. Drain. Mix pasta, cauliflower, and cheese sauce together. Place in a greased casserole dish. Sprinkle bread crumbs on top. Bake 12-15 minutes until bubbly and bread crumbs are browned.